Sexual myths are beliefs that are widely accepted as true by society, although in reality they lack accuracy and scientific validity. Sexual myths can lead to sexual problems, and they may also contribute to the persistence and unresolved nature of these problems.
So, what are these sexual myths? One myth is that men and women have different responsibilities when it comes to sexuality, and that men are responsible for managing sexual intercourse. Wrong!! This approach is highly problematic. The truth is that responsibility regarding sexuality belongs to both partners. There is much that men can learn from women, and much that women can learn from men. Sharing responsibility reduces performance pressure, and therefore the man's approach to the woman regarding the wedding night will be different and more relaxed. This will also help the man approach the woman's fears about the first night more healthily. Another myth: A woman who initiates sexual activity is immoral. Wrong!!
Sharing responsibility reduces performance pressure, and therefore the man's approach toward the woman on the first night becomes more relaxed. This helps him respond more appropriately to the woman’s fears around the first sexual experience. The belief that a woman who initiates sexual intimacy is immoral is also wrong!! In society, women are often taught that it is “moral” not to desire or initiate sexual activity. This leads women to perceive sexuality as something bad or wrong. In truth, women have the same right as men to express their sexual desires and to initiate intimacy. This is essential for a healthy sexual life and for the woman's self-confidence. Another myth: Men or women cannot say no to sex. Wrong!!
Both partners have the right to desire or refuse sexual activity. Being able to openly express one's feelings and desires is extremely important for sexual health. When partners interpret “no” as something personal or as rejection, they create a foundation for sexual problems to develop.
The fear of not being able to say no may also appear in women as fear or reluctance toward sexuality. Sexual intercourse means penetration. Wrong!!
Sexual intercourse is a process consisting of many steps such as touching, conversation, fantasies, foreplay, massage, and penetration. Not all physical intimacy must end with penis–vagina intercourse. Couples can also experience pleasure simply through touching or hugging. Partners who love each other should know how the other enjoys intimacy. Wrong!! If they do not communicate about sexuality, especially at the beginning, it is impossible for them to know this. Over time, they learn together. Sexuality is also a process of exploration. Masturbation is dirty and harmful. Wrong!! This is one of the oldest myths. In fact, masturbation is beneficial in helping a person discover their own sexuality and understand pleasure, and it is also used therapeutically in sexual therapy. Preventing unwanted pregnancies is solely the woman's responsibility. Wrong!! Just as responsibility in sexuality is shared, this issue should also be discussed and mutually agreed upon by partners. Concerns about this matter can sometimes cause women to perceive sexuality negatively.
